If you 're having a hard time communicating what you're feeling to your partner--or hearing what they are saying--a "third element" illustration can help. As you slow down and pinpoint the trigger points and mental messages that fire when things go wrong, see your reactions, and brainstorm how to choose a more helpful response than your first one, talk gets better. Here are some of my favorite tools used in conversations with couples, and available for printout, below.

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